Let’s face it. We’ve all been hurt before and have
encountered situations that are put simply, not as easy to overcome or bounce
back from as others. These situations
can be incredibly overwhelming, maybe even painful and even painstakingly
confusing at times. In these moments, we
try to find closure; a way to be at peace with this person or situation that
hurt us. We just want to be able to move
forward and heal from this event or be free from it. In some instances, we may feel as though the
only way to obtain this closure is from the person or thing that caused it
especially if it was a person. But, what
if you can’t get that closure from that one person you need it from? That one person who caused all of this pent-up
hurt, pain, anger, and confusion? It may
seem as though this is the only person who can give you this closure, like it’s
out of your control but I’m here to tell you, that’s not the case.
Unfortunately, there are times in which some people can so
easily inflict pain and hurt upon us and act as though it’s nothing thus
refusing to or not being capable of giving us the closure we need. What can we do in those situations when we
feel like we hit this wall? When we have
tried over, and over, time after time, maybe even begged this person for closure
but to no avail, they just can’t give it to us for whatever the reason? How can we heal at that point? It may seem hopeless but I promise you it’s
not. Trust me, as someone who has been through this first hand, I know what
it’s like to be in such a situation but I also know what it’s like to
experience the incredibly freeing feeling of relief and freedom when I
discovered I didn’t have to be held captive by not getting that closure from
that person. I didn’t have to be stuck
in this situation. There was a way out.
When I finally came to the realization and reality after
attempting numerous times to get that closure from this particular person, I
realized that simply was not going to happen. With that being said, I knew I had to do
something to move past this roadblock and as cliché as it may sound, it
truthfully all started with gratitude.
I realized that I may have lost some things and people that
were really important to me but what I needed to realize more was what I
had/have. I needed to focus on that and
when I started to realize that and do that, I realized that I don’t need this
one person to determine my own happiness. This one person does not determine my
destiny or my endpoint. From that point
on, I made the decision to not let this one person define who I am, my worth,
my happiness, or where I’m going to go in life. I have an amazing mom who does support me, a
passion, drive, and purpose to help others, am living my life, and quite
frankly, I have all that I need to be happy and that’s when the game changed
for me.
I wanted to share this with you today because I know how
hard this process can be and trust me, I know it’s not an overnight process. It can take months or even years to realize
this because pain and hurt is real and it can and block out what’s right in
front of us and what’s within us making those things harder to see. However,
while pain is real, so is love, hope, purpose, and determination. The reality is you can do absolutely anything
you set your mind to. Once you discover
these things, nothing (and I repeat as I’ve said in many other blog posts); Nothing.
Is. Impossible. You are worth it and you CAN and WILL get through it.
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~Compassionately Inspired
