All too often, people go their entire
lives without solving problems, pushing things under the rug as if they’ll
return to them later but never do. But then there comes a time when they realize
that they’ve shoved everything under the rug for so long that now the rug is
useless because it’s been destroyed by all of the unresolved things piled underneath
it. This “time” unfortunately, is usually the time when these individuals are
on their last breath. I mean, we see this in movies and shows all the time; an
unexpected tragedy or emergency happens and we see people solving these
problems in a hospital room.
For some, this may be valid. Some may
see this is a “wake up call”, that this event has allowed them to come to their
census and for some, this may a “miracle” or the closure they need.
For others, however, it’s way too late at
that point – especially when the person has had ample chances and/or months,
years etc. to resolve the issues that needed to be resolved. I’m not here to
judge either way – everyone is their own person. However, I speak from personal experience and
I write this particular blog post both for those who may be the one who has a tendency to pile things under the rug and for those who have been hurt by others
doing this.
Picture again the analogy I brought
up in the beginning. Now picture a
person affected by these actions. That same analogy is exactly what the person
affected is feeling except that’s not happening under the rug, that’s happening
in their mind because the problems keep arising but the other person keeps pushing
it under the rug. This then leads the person affected to sit with these
unresolved problems and if you think about it, that can cause quite a bit of emotional
damage to a person; being forced to sit with unresolved problems that you have tried
to resolve but keep getting pushed under the rug and being forced just to
accept that, can take an emotional toll on someone. Then, the time comes where
the person who has continuously shoved these things under the rug for so long
experiences an emergency or unexpected tragedy and they want to make it right
because they don’t want to leave this world with that guilt. But how do you
think that makes the person affected feel? Most likely they feel 100 times more hurt than
before because they may feel as though they weren’t worth fixing these problems
for until this time and think about the damage that, on top of the baggage of
having to hold onto the issues for so long, can cause. With that being said, if
you’re one of those people who has a tendency to pile things under the rug, think
about how that could be affecting those around you.
Additionally, if you’re the one
affected by this person's (or people's) actions and are left sitting with things piled high
in your mind from things not being resolved and are left feeling confused, overwhelmed,
hurt etc., I’ve been there and I hear you and as hard, damaging, and draining
as it can be, this person’s actions are NOT a reflection of your worth, your
value, or your potential. I know you may feel otherwise but believe me when I
say this. You are not subject to live with the backlash of this person’s actions
for the rest of your life. You can rise above. I know that can be
easier said than done, and I know right now it may feel permanent but you are worth
so
much more than how they made you feel. You are worth solving and one
day, you will rise above the hurt and pain and conquer and you will be so
much stronger because of it.
Thanks so much
for reading and stay tuned for more blog posts to come! Also, feel free to like
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~Compassionately
Inspired
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